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There are very few husbands today who feel like they do not have enough to do. It is quite the opposite! Our husbands sometimes feel overwhelmed by the enormous tasks and obligations that they are responsible for such as (church, work, home, wives and children). In the midst of all this, it is easy to lose sight of your priorities as a husband. We shall be discussing some vital priorities of a godly husband, which should serve as a quick check list for any one desiring to be a godly husband.

Five Vital Priorities of a Godly Husband.

#1. Love God (Deut 6:5). Being a godly husband begins with being a godly man; being a godly man begins with loving God above all things. Jesus speaking in Mk12:30: “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind, and with all your strength”. This is the greatest commandment because God created us first and foremost to be in relationship with Him. It is the foundation of life and foundation of our marriages. If God is not your greatest priority, you have no foundation upon which to build your life and marriage. Loving God above all things means, you seek to cultivate your relationship with Him. This is done primarily by reading His Word, prayer and fellowship with one another. It is important for you to be committed to these things and still have time for your family. Be flexible according to your time constraints and set your expectations accordingly.

#2. Love your Wife (Eph 5:25-29). “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ love the Church and gave Himself for her…” This is a sobering command! Let’s consider the implication critically: The way you love your wife should be a reflection of how Jesus loves the Church. To be more practical about it: Your wife should know what Jesus’ love is like simply by the way you love her. So what was Jesus’ love for the church like? Above all, it was self sacrificing. Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her….Eph5:25. Husbands will love their wives the way Jesus loved the Church; when they live self sacrificing lives in marriage and put their wives’ good ahead of their own. Perhaps one of the most practical steps you could take is simply to ask your wife. “Honey, are there any areas in our marriage where you do not feel like I am loving you? Are there any areas where you feel like I am putting myself ahead of you and your good? These are bold questions to ask! Moreover you should not ask them if you are not willing to hear the suggestions that might come! But if you are serious about loving your wife as Christ loved the Church, you will probably need your wife’s help in order to understand how to love her better. Also, consider seeking out a brother whose marriage you respect and meet together on a regular basis to pray about being a godly husband. God consistently tells us in His Word that relationships and accountability are powerful tools for growth in the Kingdom Eccl4:9-12; Heb10:24-25.

#3. Manage your Family Well (Eph 6:4). Parents are exhorted to bring up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.Deut6:6-7a. Fathers in particular are commanded to instruct their children in the ways of the Lord. “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” Eph6:4. Yes, children are expected to obey their parents Eph6:1-3. But fathers, Paul says, “do not make this difficult for the children!” Godly fathers are not dictators who need to prove their authority by constantly giving orders, commands and making new rules that are difficult to keep! Godly fathers focus on helping their children to understand who the Lord is; they want their children to know that God’s ways are good ways and that His commands are for their good. Since God is the perfect Father, one of the most practical things you can do, is get to know God better. Understand His Character. Know how He responds and relates to His Children. As you grow in your understanding of who God is and how He relates to you, you will grow in your understanding of how you should relate to your children. Seek the counsel of those who have gone ahead of you. Soren Kierkegaard once said, “We have to live life forwards, but can only understand life backwards”. The trick, then, is to find someone whose “backwards” is your “forwards”! Seeking out a godly father for wisdom and advice is invaluable. Jer 6:16 says “Thus says the Lord: Stand in the ways and see, And ask for the old paths, where the good way is, And walk in it; Then you shall find rest for your souls…..”.

#4. Provide for your Family (2Thess3:10-12 & 1Tim5:8). The importance of providing for your family should not be missed: “for even when we were with you, we commanded you this: if anyone will not work, neither shall he eat”. Paul is not talking here of those who earnestly desire work and have been laid off or are struggling to find a job. He is talking about those who are lazy. Providing for your family presents at least two different challenges. Some find their jobs not enjoyable and frustrating, while others choose to let their jobs take a higher priority than their family. One thing you need to recognize is that you are responsible for the upkeep of your family. The Scripture says “if anyone does not provide for his own household, he has denied the faith and he is worse than an unbeliever”. What this means is that you have not only failed to live up to the faith you profess, but you have failed to live up to the code of unbelievers concerning family obligations. The issue is not whether you enjoy the job or not, but whatever job your hands find to do, do it diligently believing God for a better and more rewarding one. Secondly, do not let your job take a higher priority than your family. If you are already doing that, you need to repent. Of course there will always be times when your job demand more of you than at other times, but many men make the mistake of feeding their egos and ambition through their accomplishments at work at the expense of their family and relationship with

#5. Be involved in a Local Church (Heb10:25). Get involved in a good local church that believes in the Bible and teaches it well! Involvement in a local church is not an option for the Christian it is a command. “not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching” Heb10:25. This is absolutely essential to the spiritual well being of your family.

In conclusion, as you religiously put your priorities in proper place and order, God Almighty will through the help of the Holy Spirit make you a godly husband and father indeed. God bless you.