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Daily Archives: May 7, 2012

A life of rebellion can pull children into a web of regret. Once they are in it, it is hard for them to get out. As parents we need to help them find their way back into the bosom of the family. It should be our aim, regardless of what our children have done to us, to do everything we can to help restore them to fellowship with God and be in harmony with their extended family.
We are called to be peacemakers (1Pt 3:7). Our government sometimes sends out our armed troops to some hot spots in the world to serve as peacekeepers. Jesus didn’t say, “Blessed are the peacekeepers.” He said, “Blessed are the peacemakers.” Peacekeepers are simply people with big guns and more money in their pockets to keep a rebellion from getting out of hand. Peacekeeping doesn’t solve the rebellion; it just keeps it in check.

A peacemaker helps bring rebellion to an end. That’s what we’re called to do with members of our family who have chosen a life of rebellion. Peacemaking isn’t about avoiding conflict or trying to calm down someone’s anger. It is using whatever means that is beneficial to bringing another person to a point of reconciliation and restoration. It might mean working to avoid a conflict or bringing a conflict to an end. I want to suggest a few principles to follow when acting on God’s leading in restoring a rebellious child back to God and the family:
Talk things out with God before you discuss them with the rebellious child. You want to make sure your heart is right before you attempt to get your child’s heart right. God may need to change you first. He most likely has been teaching you things all along. Allow Him to continue to teach you. Talk with Him, but also listen to Him.
Don’t be afraid to voice your own despair and frustration to God. You may have a good deal of anger of your own to ventilate with Him. Speak what is on your heart respectfully to Him. But speak it!
God speaks very clearly to us through His Word. Put the Scriptures before you and meditate on them. Ask God to reveal to you the unmet needs in your son or daughter that might have stirred him or her to anger. God may wait days, weeks, or months before He gives you the calm assurance that you are ready to make your approach. Wait for His peace. In the meantime, God may not only be changing your heart; He may also be changing your son’s or daughter’s heart, too.

Take the first step. You may have been on the receiving end of a lot of dishonor. Your fragile ego tells you, “It’s your child’s duty to take the first step. He/she’s the one that has rebelled and caused you pain. He/she should have to initiate peace talk.”
Don’t let your flesh do the talking or allow your wounded heart to call the shots. Let God’s Spirit take the lead. And remember that holding back only hurts you. The Bible says that refusing to deal with unresolved conflict will block your prayers.

Identify with their pain. People don’t get angry and rebel for no reason. There may be a lot of pain stirred up inside them. Listen, speak less. Ask questions.
Go with the goal of sympathizing before attempting to find solutions. It’s not the time to rehearse the hurts or try to clarify the mistakes your child has made. Nor is it the time to remind him/her just how much pain he/she has dished out.
The key at this stage of the restoration process is to communicate that your child is tremendously valuable to you. His/her opinions, feelings and wounds matters to you. The Living Bible says, “We must bear the ‘burden’ of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others. Let’s please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good” (Rom 15:2).
You may have to listen to some accusations and unfounded assaults. Don’t get into defending yourself. Let your child get the bile out of his/her system. When he/she sees that you aren’t rationalizing, explaining, or arguing, it will show him/her that you are more interested in him/her than in yourself. And remember, if you have to take some insults you don’t deserve, you’ll be doing the same thing for your son or daughter that Christ had to do for you.

Own up to the negative part you played. No parent is perfect. And if you got caught off guard by a child’s rebellion, you may have done or said things you shouldn’t have. Because your child has been so close to you, you may have unintentionally let him/her down.
Don’t try to explain why you did what you did or said what you said. Just ask for forgiveness. Jesus said, “First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye” (Matt 7:5).
Your attitude of humility and remorse can play a huge role in changing your rebellious child’s attitude. Be thorough, humble, and gentle as you confess the part you played in his/her decision to turn his/her back on God’s best plans. Ask for forgiveness.

Deal with the problem, not the person. It is very important that you go through the process, not accusing your children or convincing them of things they did wrong. God will reveal that to them. This is not the time to attach blame to their actions or to rehearse your hurt.
The book of Proverbs reminds us that “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Pro15:1). Your tone of voice, your posture, and your facial expressions can communicate so much that is in your heart. Just let your child see God’s grace and mercy in your eyes and feel it in your voice. The Bible says, “The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction” (Pro16:21).
Regardless of whether they use sarcasm, put-downs, arrogance, or insults, don’t give back in kind. Paul said, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Eph4:29).

Figure out how you can cooperate rather than compete. You may have to swallow some pride. It’s not that you are compromising on absolute principles but rather looking for some common ground where you and your child can both agree. The key here is that you’re not trying to win a battle. Your goal is unity, not victory.

Don’t aim at resolving; aim at restoring. There’s no way both sides of a major conflict are going to agree on everything. Don’t even try. Reconciliation isn’t about evening scores and fixing all the problems that have occurred. Your goal is the restoration of the relationship between you and your child, not in resolving every difference of opinion. When hearts are brought back together, many of the differences between them become irrelevant.
Not even the best of friends and the healthiest married couples see eye to eye on everything. That’s not the goal of love anyway. Grace has room for different perspectives and different interpretations of a situation. Concentrate on bringing your hearts back together and deal with the differences later, after God has brought healing to your relationship. Shalom.


Gideon, Barak, Samson and Jephthah pleased God by Faith

And what more shall I say? For the time would fail me to tell of Gideon and Barak and Samson and Jephthah. (Heb11:32)

So much has been noted in these chronicles of faith (Hebrew 11) concerning the extensive consequences that appear as faith gain access to grace. As our present verse implies, days and pages seem too short to also relate the testimonies of Gideon, Barak, Samson and Jephthah; who many might view as “unlikely examples” of living by faith.

In Gideon, God was calling an unlikely leader as His instrument for delivering His people. His humble reply was, “O my Lord, how can I save Israel? . . . I am the least in my father’s house” (Jdg.6:15). The Lord’s promise was, “Surely I will be with you, and you shall defeat the Midianites (Jdg.6:16). When 32,000 Israelites rallied for battle (see Jdg.7:3), God diminished Gideon’s army to an unimpressive, outnumbered 300. “Then the LORD said to Gideon, ‘By the three hundred men who lapped I will save you” (Jdg_7:7). Gideon went forth by faith, and the Lord was faithful to His word. “When the three hundred blew the trumpets, the LORD set every man’s sword against his companion . . . and the army fled” (Jdg.7:22).

Again, in Barak, another unlikely leader was selected by the Lord. First, he would not go forth to battle unless the prophetess Deborah accompanied him “And Barak said to her, If you will go with me, then I will go; but if you will not go with me, I will not go’ ” (Jdg_4:8). Also, his godless opponent was actually defeated by another woman. “Sisera had fled away on foot to the tent of Jael, the wife of Heber . . . Then Jael . . . took a tent peg and took a hammer in her hand . . . and drove the peg into his temple . . . for he was fast asleep and weary. So he died” (Jdg.4:17, Jdg.4:21).

In Samson, we have another unexpected example of faith. Although he did many mighty exploits, he often proved to be a vain and foolish man (especially, concerning women). Yet, in his death, he won his greatest victory of all. “O Lord God, remember me, I pray! Strengthen me, I pray, just this once, O God . . . So the dead that he killed at his death were more than he had killed in his life” (Jdg.16:28, Jdg.16:30).

In Jephthah, we have one more unlikely example of faith. He was the “son of a harlot” (Jdg_11:1). He made what appeared to be an unwise vow (Jdg_11:1). Still, on occasion, his trust in the Lord was evident. “Then the Spirit of the LORD came upon Jephthah . . . and the LORD delivered them into his hands” (Jdg.11:29, Jdg.11:32).

If these people can find their way to the Hall of Faith, then you and I have a greater opportunity of getting there if only we will dare to trust God enough.

Pray this prayer with me.

Lord God of the “unlikely servant,” I thank You for these testimonies of those “likely to be overlooked by many.” Yet, at various times and in many situations, their faith in You was demonstrated. Lord, I am encouraged that you are not looking for the spectacular performer or the capable achiever. You are looking for people who will trust in You, as You deal with their shortcomings. I praise You, Lord, for such loving-kindness!

There are very few husbands today who feel like they do not have enough to do. It is quite the opposite! Our husbands sometimes feel overwhelmed by the enormous tasks and obligations that they are responsible for such as (church, work, home, wives and children). In the midst of all this, it is easy to lose sight of your priorities as a husband. We shall be discussing some vital priorities of a godly husband, which should serve as a quick check list for any one desiring to be a godly husband.

Five Vital Priorities of a Godly Husband.

#1. Love God (Deut 6:5). Being a godly husband begins with being a godly man; being a godly man begins with loving God above all things. Jesus speaking in Mk12:30: “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind, and with all your strength”. This is the greatest commandment because God created us first and foremost to be in relationship with Him. It is the foundation of life and foundation of our marriages. If God is not your greatest priority, you have no foundation upon which to build your life and marriage. Loving God above all things means, you seek to cultivate your relationship with Him. This is done primarily by reading His Word, prayer and fellowship with one another. It is important for you to be committed to these things and still have time for your family. Be flexible according to your time constraints and set your expectations accordingly.

#2. Love your Wife (Eph 5:25-29). “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ love the Church and gave Himself for her…” This is a sobering command! Let’s consider the implication critically: The way you love your wife should be a reflection of how Jesus loves the Church. To be more practical about it: Your wife should know what Jesus’ love is like simply by the way you love her. So what was Jesus’ love for the church like? Above all, it was self sacrificing. Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her….Eph5:25. Husbands will love their wives the way Jesus loved the Church; when they live self sacrificing lives in marriage and put their wives’ good ahead of their own. Perhaps one of the most practical steps you could take is simply to ask your wife. “Honey, are there any areas in our marriage where you do not feel like I am loving you? Are there any areas where you feel like I am putting myself ahead of you and your good? These are bold questions to ask! Moreover you should not ask them if you are not willing to hear the suggestions that might come! But if you are serious about loving your wife as Christ loved the Church, you will probably need your wife’s help in order to understand how to love her better. Also, consider seeking out a brother whose marriage you respect and meet together on a regular basis to pray about being a godly husband. God consistently tells us in His Word that relationships and accountability are powerful tools for growth in the Kingdom Eccl4:9-12; Heb10:24-25.

#3. Manage your Family Well (Eph 6:4). Parents are exhorted to bring up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.Deut6:6-7a. Fathers in particular are commanded to instruct their children in the ways of the Lord. “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” Eph6:4. Yes, children are expected to obey their parents Eph6:1-3. But fathers, Paul says, “do not make this difficult for the children!” Godly fathers are not dictators who need to prove their authority by constantly giving orders, commands and making new rules that are difficult to keep! Godly fathers focus on helping their children to understand who the Lord is; they want their children to know that God’s ways are good ways and that His commands are for their good. Since God is the perfect Father, one of the most practical things you can do, is get to know God better. Understand His Character. Know how He responds and relates to His Children. As you grow in your understanding of who God is and how He relates to you, you will grow in your understanding of how you should relate to your children. Seek the counsel of those who have gone ahead of you. Soren Kierkegaard once said, “We have to live life forwards, but can only understand life backwards”. The trick, then, is to find someone whose “backwards” is your “forwards”! Seeking out a godly father for wisdom and advice is invaluable. Jer 6:16 says “Thus says the Lord: Stand in the ways and see, And ask for the old paths, where the good way is, And walk in it; Then you shall find rest for your souls…..”.

#4. Provide for your Family (2Thess3:10-12 & 1Tim5:8). The importance of providing for your family should not be missed: “for even when we were with you, we commanded you this: if anyone will not work, neither shall he eat”. Paul is not talking here of those who earnestly desire work and have been laid off or are struggling to find a job. He is talking about those who are lazy. Providing for your family presents at least two different challenges. Some find their jobs not enjoyable and frustrating, while others choose to let their jobs take a higher priority than their family. One thing you need to recognize is that you are responsible for the upkeep of your family. The Scripture says “if anyone does not provide for his own household, he has denied the faith and he is worse than an unbeliever”. What this means is that you have not only failed to live up to the faith you profess, but you have failed to live up to the code of unbelievers concerning family obligations. The issue is not whether you enjoy the job or not, but whatever job your hands find to do, do it diligently believing God for a better and more rewarding one. Secondly, do not let your job take a higher priority than your family. If you are already doing that, you need to repent. Of course there will always be times when your job demand more of you than at other times, but many men make the mistake of feeding their egos and ambition through their accomplishments at work at the expense of their family and relationship with

#5. Be involved in a Local Church (Heb10:25). Get involved in a good local church that believes in the Bible and teaches it well! Involvement in a local church is not an option for the Christian it is a command. “not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching” Heb10:25. This is absolutely essential to the spiritual well being of your family.

In conclusion, as you religiously put your priorities in proper place and order, God Almighty will through the help of the Holy Spirit make you a godly husband and father indeed. God bless you.

Marriage is the most basic of human relationships, it is within marriage that individuals have their emotional, physical, familial and financial needs met. Marriage is serious business; the choice of a marriage partner is perhaps the most important decision to be made in life. No other relationship greatly influences every other areas of life. However, marriage has been used by many as a legal sanction for exerting one’s own rights over another, to insure financial security at another’s expense or to provide self identity within society the good news is that God‘s plans for marriage is far different. Marriage is a mystery and God Himself is the solution to that mystery. Marriage as instituted by God is the union of two separate individuals into one flesh. Each partner finds satisfaction and completeness in the presence of one another and of God. This fundamental principle concerning marriage must be understood for the relationship to be successful, rewarding and pleasing to God. Since God Himself established marriage it was His idea and not man’s idea He Himself determined the boundaries of the relationship. We as Christians therefore can expect guidance from His written word, support from fellow believers, positive role models in the Church and especially ever present help from the Divine Marriage Counselor within in the person of the Holy Spirit. A Christian marriage begins with vows to one another and to God. Mutual love, honor and commitment are covenanted for a lifetime. Yet often the marriages of Christians are shattered by divorce just like the people without commitment to Christ. Perhaps your marital boat has capsized and ready to sink. Do not give up help is on the way.

This issue of the Lighthouse blog is designed to get you in contact with the Master Builder who made your marriage craft. What blueprints and tools are needed for marriage under construction? Is there a manual to help with the maintenance?

The Bible specifies a builder Ps127:1 Jesus is the Builder of any successful marriage. It suggests the best construction method Matt7:24. Listening to and obeying the words of Jesus are the mortar and bricks that are used to construct a permanent marriage. The Bible is the most accurate marriage manual available on sale today. 2Tim3:16. Jesus promised that if you will be a wise builder, your marriage will stand against the flood of problems that threatened from without. Matt7:25.

Tools for Building a Solid Marriage.

The Role of Salvation. The most critical question you will ever have to answer is “what are you doing with Jesus? Acts4:12 Salvation can only be found in Christ but being born again is not enough to withstand the temptations that come your way. Many people are born again but they do not experience the joy of knowing Jesus on a personal, day to day basis. Asking Jesus to save you and inviting Him to stay as a permanent resident is an important decision to make, it is comparable to buying a comprehensive insurance protection. Jesus’ call to discipleship is to make Him both Savior and Lord of your life. You cannot expect all your marital problems to disappear simply by deciding for Jesus, but with His guidance because He is a permanent Resident in your life and marriage you will scale through the hurdles Pr4:11.

The Role of the Holy Spirit. Very few Christians realize that the Resident Holy Spirit is the greatest marriage counselor possible. He does the following for you: He counsels Jn 14:16 He encourages Acts 9:31. He prays for you Rom 8:27. He will reveal practical ways to obey God’s commandments and as you mature spiritually His fruits will be evident in your life Gal5:22-23. Each fruit is a manifestation of the character of Jesus. God also in addition to the fruits gives the supernatural gifts of the Spirit. These are available in your marriage to minister to one another. 1Cor12:7-10. The Holy Spirit delights in helping you but there is a condition. You must first ask Lk 11:13.

Growing in Christ. If you were to choose an ideal mate, your deepest longing is to find someone who loves you unconditionally, who thinks you are precious and who if necessary would give up his/her very life for you. When God drew up the guidelines for marriage He kept those needs in mind. Eph5:25 the love between a husband and his wife is compared to God’s infinite love for His people. Imagine a triangle with God at the apex, the husband at one corner and the wife at the other. As they move upward towards God, they draw increasingly closer to each other. The closer they get to the source of love the better they are to love and encourage one another. Christ -like love is the basis for the marriage relationship in which two become one flesh. Christ feels the deepest form of intimacy for His Bride. Eph 5:25-27 and 1Jn 4:10—12. As we follow Christ’s example, our relationship becomes far richer and more satisfying than we ever dreamed. Husband and wife are to love each other unconditionally and sacrificially as Christ our Perfect Example loved His Bride the Church.

From the beginning God’s Heart desire to build a dwelling place for Himself in the Earth is seen in His creation of man and woman together Gen1:26-28.

The family is the foundation of the Lord’s House on earth. It is the foundation of the human society. It is the institution created by God for bringing children into the world to be nurtured, trained and loved.         Today the existence of the family and of biblical family valves is threatened. If the foundation of a house is faulty the collapse of the house is eminent Ps11:3.

Divorce, economics instability, teen pregnancy, careerism, substance abuse and immorality have made it difficult to build a home where love, listening, unity and authority reside. But it can be done.

What is Family?

Family is the collective body of persons who live in one house and under one head or manager. It is also a household including parents, children, servants etc. it can also be a people of one common progenitor, a tribe, or race, kindred, lineage etc.

Spiritually the family is the nucleus of the Church. It is the focal point of the Church. Its function is similar to the function of the nucleus of a seed. The nucleus of the seed is the source of life for that seed; likewise the family is the source of life to the Church. So if the source is contaminated then be sure the product will also be contaminated. The attack of Satan on the family is an attack on the source of life of the Church.

What is a Nucleus?

It is the central part of a whole seed, its own identity about which the rest of the whole gathers or grows; it is the center of activity or influence. It is the inner spheroid protoplasmic mass of a cell, essential to the life of the cell and it is responsible for the transmission of hereditary characters.

The family is the link between the Church and the world. It is the channel through which the Grace of God flows to the world. It is the mirror that reflects the image of God to the world.

Through the family the hereditary characters of God is transmitted to the world. Through the family set up God intends to live and reveal Himself in the world, He manifest His Character, Authority and expresses His Dominion over the earth and He displays His indisputable power over the works of darkness and subdue His archenemy – Satan.

Just as in biology the nucleus of a cell is composed of nucleoproteins, the family is composed of parents, children, uncles, aunties, cousins, nieces, nephews, maid, servants etc at the center of this complex network is the man and the woman.

The Origin of the Family

The world family originated from one man and one woman. It started with a man called Adam and his wife – Eve.

God planted a Garden in the East of Eden and put a man to tend it and he was also given some other assignments which included procreation and for him to carry out this assignment there was need for a woman to be created. This brought about the carrying out of the first surgical operation on earth. Gen2:18-25. The man saw the creation of God he was excited and he named her woman because she was taken from him. He (man) under divine inspiration immediately gave a set of rules that will guide the relationship. There was an immediate change of priority for him, his wife was to come first before his father and mother, Adam told God by this pronounce that he did not want any interference from anybody and God respected his decision. Gen 2:23-24. If parents will also respect this law we will see some level of sanity in the families. Adam forgot himself in the excitement that God was playing a dual role in his life, God was first his Divine Creator and then his father, he forgot to put his Creator before his wife which is the right thing to do and he landed in trouble. The serpent came to the woman and sin of disobedience came into the world. God plans and purposes for the human race were tampered with, and judgment went forth, first to the serpent, the woman and finally the man Gen3:1-19.

Adam response to the judgment given by God was a response of faith (he did not argue with God or complain of any unfair treatment). It is the birth of faith; this faith indicated a new beginning of spiritual life. He immediately changed the name of his wife to Eve Gen3:20. Eve– Life Spring. He prophetically pronounced life on his wife; their sin had made them dead spiritually so he needed to do something to change the situation, pronouncing life on his wife showed his faith in God’s ability to change their circumstances, through the seed that was to come forth from his wife to avenge the works of Satan.     God manifested His mercy indicating the pardon and acceptance of a confessing, believing man, rejoicing in anticipation of that future victory over the serpent which was to be accomplished by the Seed of the woman. The mercy of God alone is the source of pardon Gen3:21. Adam then knew Eve his wife and they started the first family. Gen 4:1.


Mother and Child watching each other

God in His immeasurable wisdom put something in mothers that makes them bond well with their children. We will be discussing the bond between a mother and her daughter. One of the most important and enriching relationships you can have in life is the relationship between a mother and her children. But specifically, there is an incredible impacting relationship between a mother and daughter. Surely, your mother may drive you crazy or your daughter may be the cause of all things stressful in your life, but there is no denying the power of the mother— daughter bond that exists. Many of us are blessed with a supportive and loving mother– daughter relationship from the start while some of us will never know what that kind of relationship is like. Not every mother– daughter relationship is solid and many of us will have to work hard at developing a strong bond with our mothers or daughters. The dynamics of a mother—daughter relationship changes constantly as each woman enters a different stage or phase of life. But no matter the stage/phase of life the importance of a mother– daughter relationship never diminishes. Let us look at these tips for improving this unique bond between a mother and daughter.

Advice for Daughters

Part of being a nurturing and loving mother is having to be a disciplinarian, but once a daughter becomes an adult and establishes her own independence, a mother– daughter relationship evolves into more of friendship than discipline. Your relationship with your mother matures as you both mature. The older you get and the more life experience you acquire, the more you will be surprised at how your relationship changes.

 Involve your mum in your life: Your mum may want to spend more time with you but does not want to feel like she is imposing. She knows you have your own life, but she wants to be a part of it. The advice is you take time to engage in activities that will strengthen your bond with your mum. My relationship with my mum is very rich; we both have respect for each other. As we both mature in age, she began to see me as both her friend and her confidant. She became an important part of my life and my husband is her “blue-eyed” boy, since I do not live in the same country with her, I diverse means of involving her in my affair through regular telephone communication.

 Remember that she will always be your mummy: Your mum is the one that raised you, and no matter what age you turn or what decade of life she enters into, she will always be your mummy. Treat her with the respect and dignity she deserves. Ex21:17; Lev20:9 and Pro20:20. Remember to thank her being the great mummy she has been all these years.

 Honor your mother and regard her wise counsel: The scriptures taught us to honor our parents Ex20:12 and Eph6:2. No matter what status you have attained in life in terms influence and affluence, you are not permitted by the word of God to dishonor and disrespect your mother.
Irrespective of your mother’s actions or inactions towards you the word of God must be obeyed, and by so doing you will enjoy the benefits of God attached to His words concerning you.

Advice for Mothers

As a mother you have one of the most difficult jobs, but also one of the most rewarding. Your children are your life. There is a good chance your mother– daughter relationship has suffered some few blows as your daughter passes through the adolescent phase of life, but now that you are older and have adult relationship with your daughter, it is time to take some good advice for mothers.

 Stop criticizing: The time for being critical has passed. Your daughter is grown up and will usually not respond well to criticism, even though a mother may know best. Keep your criticism to yourself unless she asks you for advice, or you are being critical over something that is dangerous or immoral to herself or her loved ones. Also remember that constant criticism can lead to resentment, which can lead to a much bigger problem later on. When your daughter opens up to you for advice or support, it is because she trusts your motherly instincts and wisdom. Do not abuse that trust by being overly critical of her or her marriage, it can be harmful to your mother– daughter bond.

 Give your daughter some space: In other words stop meddling into the affairs of your daughter, especially the running of her home and marriage. She has her own life to live now; her identity seems almost independent of you now, even if you helped shape it. Let her experience her own adventures with you sometimes in the background. Remember your daughter is grown up now, so you can no longer play centre role in her life. My mother understands this very well and she respects my privacy. She knows she cannot interfere in my life and most especially my marriage. Even though she is welcome to my home at anytime, she cannot just leave her house and come visiting without notifying me and my husband. She does not meddle into my affairs, and if I do not seek her opinion over any matter she will not offer it. I enjoy a very wonderful relationship with her and all my friends that come in contact with her enjoy the same motherly love.

 Remember your own mother’s lesson: Your relationship with your own mother is an excellent tool for you to learn from to enhance your relationship with your own daughter. With age, you gain great perspective and you learn what you liked or did not like about your mother’s parenting style and what was most effective. Learn from your past to better your future with your daughter. Remember that parts of your own life lessons that you teach your daughter will be passed onto her own children.

Have a wonderful mother– daughter relationship that will be the envy of all.